Career Change: The 4 Stages of a Flying Trapeze

February 22, 2016

Recently I made one of the most transformational decisions of my life. I decided on a career change. It doesn’t sound like a big deal…until I tell you that I’m 34 years old. And solely financially responsible for my own survival. And that I left a six figure income as a Director with a nationally renowned, Pulitzer Prize-winning publication in exchange for a temporary minimum wage position as an intern.
Why? If I were being dramatic, I’d tell you it was the pursuit of passion. But in reality, when I did it I wasn’t even sure yet what my passion was. I was just wildly unhappy.
So, how did I pull this off?  I'm a Bold Bettie.   I was fortunate enough to find empowerment through adventure and the outdoors.  I found support among a community of driven female adventurers and with the confidence I developed, I was able to transfer that fearlessness to my professional life.  These are the four stages of career change I experienced and some tips to catalyze your own new beginning!

Stage 1 of Career Change: “What am I doing with my life?” — The Downswing
When I was a little girl I wanted to be a superhero. As I grew up, life continued to happen and the din of others’ opinions filled my mind. “Go to college.” “Get a stable job.” “Get married.” “Buy a house.” “Have some kids.” I’m not exactly sure when I stopped listening to the voice inside myself that was filled with wonder about the world I inhabited. It seemed like one day I just woke up with a college degree, a house, a car payment and a deep sense of emptiness. It’s not that my jobs were terrible. They just didn’t fit me.  Each day as I left for work, I folded myself into the shape of the corporate box I was expected to inhabit. I was on autopilot with no idea how to re-engage the controls of my life. At the time, I felt like I was falling, but really, I was holding on to the bar of a trapeze swinging downward and building momentum.


Stage 2 of Career Change: “Put Yourself Out There” — The Upswing

So, what could I do? I had a grown up life with grown up bills and responsibilities. How could I possibly explore other options and still meet my obligations?  I needed to take action and the first step was to put myself out there and start meeting people.  I began talking to everyone I knew. I asked friends, family and trusted colleagues what they thought my strengths were. I also asked them about my weaknesses.
They were honest.
REALLY honest.
Those friends and family referred me to people in their networks and I began to learn about new and exciting options I had never entertained. I was soon introduced to a fabulous digital marketing maven. This self-made woman had chased her desires until she uncovered her passions and was very successfully pouring herself into all of them at once. She agreed to meet me for tea one sunny autumn day on Pearl Street in Boulder. She shared about her successes but more importantly, her failures and how they had led her to meaningful work. She said, “In the Startup community we have a saying, ‘Fail Fast.’ It gives us permission to try new things, until we arrive at the best possible solution. It’s the ultimate freedom in experimentation, and it’s addictive.” I left that meeting with a notebook full of inspiration and a mind overflowing with ideas.
Months went by and still I continued meeting people, asking questions and investigating new paths that were presented to me. Whenever my natural curiosity tapered off, I would move on and explore the next channel. Fail fast. At times I felt discouraged, frustrated and anxious. Would any of this research ever pay off? What I didn’t realize was that by being proactive, my momentum had shifted and I was on the upswing of the trapeze, gliding higher.

Stage 3: “The Leap of Faith” — Letting Go of the Bar

One day, I found myself sitting in my well-appointed office staring at a budget spreadsheet for the upcoming fiscal year. I had spent several weeks revamping our marketing and events strategy and was pleased with the work I’d accomplished. But something was missing. The emptiness still lingered. How much longer could I stare at spreadsheets designed to be presented to distant owners behind a curtain? I longed to channel my talents into a calling that would allow me to be both creative AND analytical. I sought an environment where leadership was transparent and accessible. I was ready for a career where I could have a direct and measurable impact on the success of my company. So I asked the universe for a sign. Moments later, my boss delivered news that another department, one critical to the success of the organization, would be experiencing layoffs. I knew it was time to move on.

The next morning I gave my resignation. I had no job lined up and no source of income. My modest savings would have to get me through until I could ascertain the next step, but at least I had given myself the gifts of time and mental freedom to fully commit to that process. I had let go of the bar and was soaring through the air, like the superhero I had wanted to be as a kid.

Stage 4: “Starting Over” — Grabbing the Next Bar

The day after I resigned, I received a call from the Maven offering me a digital marketing internship with her startup for two days a week. They could pay me, but only minimum wage, she cautioned. I told her I was interested. As soon as I hung up, I panicked about money. Two days later, I received a call from a friend in my newly spun network. She was looking for someone with my experience to help her company three days a week. She offered to pay me the exact salary I had been making at my corporate job. The seeds I had planted to grow my new career were sprouting.
When I first began my internship, I could barely turn on a MacBook. I had no idea about any of the online tools, software or terminology of the industry. It was like moving to a foreign country where no one speaks your native language. You see the street signs, but you can’t read them. You’re forced to rely on the hospitality of the locals to guide you in the right direction and help you find your way. That’s exactly what happened to me. I fell in love with the country that is the Startup community, and learned to speak the language of Digital Marketing. Now, I dream about HubSpot. I communicate in gifs. I go to amazing industry events in my free time. I tell my friends about all the amazing new startups that are forming and getting funded. I have learned the outbound and inbound marketing methodologies. I craft compelling content and have a whiteboard for blog ideas in my bedroom. I collaborate with interesting, creative and talented people ALL THE TIME who share my passion for digital marketing.
I was a part-time intern for the span of three months and in that time I evolved more rapidly than I did in my 15 years as an executive. During my career changing trapeze act, I was working without a net. At times I felt my belly flip, my palms sweat, my grip loosen and my equilibrium tilt. I tried not to look down, and to trust that each stage of the act was necessary to reach the next one. At the end of this show, I am no longer distracted by the din of the crowd. I hear only voluminous applause, and it’s coming from within.
We all have defining moments in our lives. Turning points where we can choose to invite in the unexpected, the unknown and the uncertain. I’ll leave you readers with this and I challenge you to step off the platform and swing on your own trapeze:

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